Before we talk about this chapter, may we define about the meaning of experience. Experience is the process of gaining knowledge or skill over a period of time through seeing and doing things rather than through studying. In The Pocket Oxford Dictionary experience is - n. 1 observation of or practical acquaintance with facts or events. 2 knowledge or skill resulting from this. 3 event or activity participated in or observed (a rare experience). - v. (-cing) 1 have experience of; undergo. 2 feel. [Latin experior -pert- try]. H. Imam Bahroni, MA, MLSc said that experience is direct personal participation or observation.
It is also called as the totality of a person’s perceptions, feeling, and memories. Experience may also be defined as the totality of characteristics, both past and present that make up the particular quality of a person, place or people. Its main aim is to teach every human being how to live in this world.
As far as we remember when we ware a child all we wanted is to have a simple life, a happy family and nice job, but as we grow older dreams are changing even plans changes. These changes are caused by the experience we have gone through, situations that we saw in people around us.
From the dream of having a simple life we have been in a very complicated one, but we never regret the moment we were in those situations because it is the reason why and how we are became who we are now. we learned many things in life, we experienced feelings that would be hard to find and felt again. It is just a complicated one yet we loved it. To get much of experiences we must stand in our life by activities. Richard Pratt said ; “Do one more thing at the end of the day and at the end of year you’ll have done 365 more things”. Living a life is not as easy we thought it can be.
Many twitches can scramble our quiet life. It is just a matter of strategies on how to handle everything in life. We have encountered many people, each of them softly touches our life others just passed by as if we do not exist. That is life not everybody in this whole wide world can be your friends or can be trusted. Sometimes the one you thought who can be trusted is the one who will first betray you. From that experience we learned that to trust is to risk, make sure first that what you risk worth what trust you gave. We have to think first before doing, is not it ? We admit we have been bad as what we thought we can be, but without being bad for even once in our life cannot give us a chance to change for the better.
We can not change from being good to being better, maybe other can but for many people it would be hard. Sometimes being bad does not mean we are evilly bad, we mean it is better to be bad for good than good for the bad. Learn from the mistakes others have committed, and you don’t need to make them all yourself. To know people who fail, look at those who do nothing, because afraid of being unsuccessful. But to know successful people, look at those who persist despite failures by their experiences.
Life is not perfect. There is always exception to the rules. We will not deny that we broke lots of rules, family rules, house rules, school rules, friendship and relationship rules but we strongly believe that behind every broken rule there is a valid reason to consider and accept. Same as promises are made to be broken, rules are made to be obeyed but some promises are made to come true and rules are made to be broken too.
The feeling of acceptance and giving the acceptance are the hardest part of our lives. Just what we had felt before, should we say we had a hard time to feel the acceptance but despite of it we give the acceptance to ourselves that it would be a long process to feel the acceptance we are longing to. But then we knew that each of us pass in a situation of having a hard time to give acceptance to other people, we also knew that in such a good time acceptance will appear just like the way it should be and at the same time we knew that acceptance can not be forced, you just have to patiently wait for it. Just like what we did. Before, we have been too mean in judging life, people and even situations.
But one thing we have learned when we had the one being judge by other people, from then on it teaches us that being too judgmental is not a good act especially if you have a good and high educational background because instead of it will bring you up, it will pull you as if you will not notice you are already at the bottom of everything. It hurts when you are being judge by people who you thought, knew you better than other people. It is the most painful feeling we ever felt. In our ears it is really hurts.
Loving someone and being loved by someone is the most incredible and treasured feelings you will value in your whole life. When we fall in love and felt the love too we never doubt those feelings we felt. we learned that once you learned how to loved and be loved you will do anything just for the love to work out and last forever. Fight for your love, if it worth it, let go, if it does not.
Weighing everything about love is the hardest way of falling in love. There are many things that wrapped the word love, because we knew that when you loved, you trust, you are faithful, sincere, honest, kind and not self-centered. The words “i love you” are the heaviest and strongest feeling that could hurt us and other people too. That is why we have been careful in saying those words, because there is always a chance that we might hurt other people or maybe the person we spoke to. we learned that to avoid getting hurt and cause pain to others you must stand by what comes out in your mouth.
Fulfilling our dreams is one of our responsibilities in life. How can we be responsible if at the first place we do not have a dream at all? Dreaming and planning are the best tools to have a happy and prosperous life. Dreams will motivate you, plan will be our key to reach our dreams. Shaman Elder said ; “ If I had not experienced this myself I would not have had the tool to be able to be teacher. But I realize the tools I have gathered, the experiences I have had all help to make me what I am today. I throw nothing away that is of value, and I throw everything away that is not of value. I am ready to learn and to teach.” Experience can built motives in our self , if we get activities we can get much of experiences and these are building up our motives in our self. So if we work by great motivation, we can reach our goals.
Our prayers are our light, our devotion is our strength, sleep is the enemy of both, our life is the opportunity that life can give us. If we waste it, if we ignore it, we will only turn to dust. We have the potential to be what ever we want it to be. Our abilities, talents, and attributes are uniquely ours a lone. Know our self what we can do and what we can not do. For only we can make our life happy. Hang on to our dreams, no matter how difficult. Trust our self, and use our strength positively.
Believe that by working, learning, and achieving we can reach our goals and be successful. Learn by our experience, although difficult, and we feel too harts, it is this time not for tomorrow. In next, one year until five years your experience is like a gold lesson. we knew that there is no dream that is easy to achieve, every dream comes true in our hard work, perseverance and prayers
. " مَنْ جَدَّ وَجَدَ "
Who want to work by hard, he can reach their success
. " إِنَّ اللّهَ لاَ يُغَيِّرُ مَا بِقَوْمٍ حَتَّى يُغَيِّرُواْ مَا بِأَنْفُسِهِمْ ٍ "
Allah changeth not the condition of a folk until they (first) change that which is in their hearts.
" وَقالَ رَبُّكُمُ ادْعُونِي أَسْتَجِبْ لَكُمْ "
And your Lord hath said: Pray unto me and I will hear your prayer. Lo! those who scorn My service, they will enter hell, disgraced. Without these three it will take us too long to achieve all our dreams, so why do not have it all at the same time so you would have our dreams as soon as we thought we can not have them.